There is a saying that I like to quote every now and then, ‘comparison is the thief of joy’; I have no idea who said it first, but we’ll give it to Maya Angelou because it sounds like something she and Oprah might’ve told you over a cup of chai tea and buttermilk scones (also if the USPS can’t fact check, neither can I.) Anyway, like many mothers that are socially engaged, we constantly find ourselves checking out the Instagram feeds and Facebook post of the moms we follow on social media–and on occasion, we may even begin to compare our children’s milestones to the children we follow online. If you don’t want to admit it that’s cool, but I’ve done it–and I’m trying hard not to.
Like, how is @lulubebe’s kid 16 months and eating with chopsticks and my 23 month old can’t stop combing his hair with his fork? Between the curated IG feeds and damn milestone charts, I’m constantly questioning if I’m doing this motherhood thing right; so much so, that I recently took Amir to visit his Pediatrician because he doesn’t talk as much or as well as other children his age and am considering speech therapy. Keep in mind that he was born 4 months early, but he’s been pretty much on the same chart as a full-term baby since he was about 10 months old. The result of the visit–shut up and wait…oh, and ‘boys usually begin talking later than girls’. Thanks for nothing, doc.
So, after recently reading an article on The Atlantic.com which highlighted a study on early language development and “how” instead of “how much” a parent interacts with an infant/toddler affects their language skills I realized that maybe I’ll be ok. No, he’s not going to recite Browning’s prose for the ‘gram, but if I can understand when he wants his cup and another piece of pizza–I’ll take it.
(But for real, he’s got an appointment with a speech therapist this week, I’ll let y’all know how it goes.)